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IN LOVE?
OR OBSESSED?
LOVE, this
is a feeling that everyone experiences at some point in life. love is the
kind of feeling that awakens the soul;
that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings
peace to our minds.
Healthy love
allows you to grow as an individual. At no point will you feel wasted or
drained. Such love is supportive, empathic, encouraging and authentic.
When you
experience healthy love, be it with your friends, family of partner, the
feelings will come effortlessly, reciprocation will be mutual and unexpected.
Unlike love,
which makes you care for another person and want that which is best for them
without neglecting yourself, an OBSESSION is that notion that has control of one’s thoughts by a continuous, powerful idea or
emotion.
An obsession
is mostly unreasonable, persistent and has a tremendous ability to make one forget all else. It makes an idea or thought continually preoccupy or
intrude your mind.
When you love
someone, you want the best for them and always want them to be happy, even if
they are not part of your life. On the other hand, obsession is a crazy feeling
where the person wants the other to be his or hers only. An obsessed person
always thinks of having the beloved one on his or her side all day.
This article’s
aim is to help you understand the difference between love and obsession and
also give you the know how of overcoming your obsession.
Here is how
you can differentiate love from obsession:
1. 1. When you love someone, you trust them. you want them to be the best version of themselves and only want good things for them. that includes giving them space when they need it. On the other hand, when obsessed with someone you will be jealous and possessive.
2. 2. Love can at times be mistaken for obsession, but the difference is how far you take your interest in the other person and when it becomes unhealthy. Thing is, obsessions will make you clingy. Being too clingy is often a deal breaker in many relationships.
3. 3. Obsessions will make you think that
you own something or somebody and you will expect them to feel the same for
you. For instance you will expect them to spend all their free time with you. But
for love, you will understand that there are some things a person wants to do
on their own.
Love can
turn into obsession due to excessive attachment, low self-esteem, and mental
health conditions. So, if you think your partner is obsessive about you or
leaning towards obsessive behavior, it is time to take appropriate action.
Here are some
of the ways to overcome your obsession with somebody and cultivate healthy love
and relationships:
1. 1. Admit to yourself that you are obsessive. Once you know the problem, you can begin fixing it.
2. 2. Differentiate between healthy love
and an obsession.
3. 3. Know that an obsession can hinder you
from seeing things in the logic way, as they are.
4. 4. View the relationship from the other person’s perspective.
5. 5. Realize that your existence alone
will not be anyone’s only priority, and to expect that is unrealistic.
6. 6. Love yourself more. Do the things you
like. Try out new things and avoid the thoughts of needing someone else for you
to be complete.
Love is a beautiful
thing. Love is such a powerful force. It’s there for everyone to embrace-that
kind of unconditional love for all of humankind. That is the kind of love that
impels people to go into the community and try to change conditions for others,
to take risks for what they believe in. Obsessions kill the vibe, it is the
singlemost wasteful human activity, because with an obsession you
keep coming back and back and back to the same question and never get an
answer.
Overcome obsessions!
Choose LOVE.
