IN LOVE? OR OBSESSED?

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IN LOVE? OR OBSESSED?

LOVE, this is a feeling that everyone experiences at some point in life. love is the kind of feeling  that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.

Healthy love allows you to grow as an individual. At no point will you feel wasted or drained. Such love is supportive, empathic, encouraging and authentic.

When you experience healthy love, be it with your friends, family of partner, the feelings will come effortlessly, reciprocation will be mutual and unexpected.

Unlike love, which makes you care for another person and want that which is best for them without neglecting yourself, an OBSESSION is that notion that has control of one’s thoughts by a continuous, powerful idea or emotion.

An obsession is mostly unreasonable, persistent and has a tremendous ability to make one  forget all else. It makes an  idea or thought continually preoccupy or intrude your mind.

When you love someone, you want the best for them and always want them to be happy, even if they are not part of your life. On the other hand, obsession is a crazy feeling where the person wants the other to be his or hers only. An obsessed person always thinks of having the beloved one on his or her side all day.

This article’s aim is to help you understand the difference between love and obsession and also give you the know how of overcoming your obsession.

Here is how you can differentiate love from obsession:

1.      1. When you love someone, you trust them. you want them to be the best version of themselves and only want good things for them. that includes giving them space when they need it. On the other hand, when obsessed with someone you will be jealous and possessive.

2.     2.  Love can at times be mistaken for obsession, but the difference is how far you take your interest in the other person and when it becomes unhealthy. Thing is, obsessions will make you clingy. Being too clingy is often a deal breaker in many relationships.

3.      3. Obsessions will make you think that you own something or somebody and you will expect them to feel the same for you. For instance you will expect them to spend all their free time with you. But for love, you will understand that there are some things a person wants to do on their own.

Love can turn into obsession due to excessive attachment, low self-esteem, and mental health conditions. So, if you think your partner is obsessive about you or leaning towards obsessive behavior, it is time to take appropriate action.

Here are some of the ways to overcome your obsession with somebody and cultivate healthy love and relationships:

1.      1. Admit to yourself that you are obsessive. Once you know the problem, you can begin fixing it.

2.      2. Differentiate between healthy love and an obsession.

3.      3. Know that an obsession can hinder you from seeing things in the logic way, as they are.

4.      4. View the relationship from  the other person’s perspective.

5.      5. Realize that your existence alone will not be anyone’s only priority, and to expect that is unrealistic. 

6.     6.  Love yourself more. Do the things you like. Try out new things and avoid the thoughts of needing someone else for you to be complete.

Love is a beautiful thing. Love is such a powerful force. It’s there for everyone to embrace-that kind of unconditional love for all of humankind. That is the kind of love that impels people to go into the community and try to change conditions for others, to take risks for what they believe in. Obsessions kill the vibe, it is the singlemost wasteful human activity, because with an obsession you keep coming back and back and back to the same question and never get an answer.

Overcome obsessions! Choose LOVE.